aka The Frazzled Mom
I don’t care how many schools “claim” to have anti-bullying agendas and policies. Try all they like, there’s no way to stop it. Bullies always find a way.
Why bring this up? Because my son is a victim of bullying. And I, as a parent, am rendered powerless most school days. Thankfully the bullying is only verbal (though that’s still tough to deal with). If Middle School was a more pleasant experience, I wouldn’t have to escort my son to the school gate. I wouldn’t have to give him a pep talk nearly every day. So forgive my eye roll when schools go on and on about their anti-bullying program.
Today I had to educate my son on something new. Something that I guess I’ve learned from my own experience. Never, ever, point out the bully while he or she is looking. *sigh* My son did exactly that. First, he was subtle, mumbling a description of the kid. But then he pointed, “There he is. That’s the guy.”
I quickly turned and made out like I was looking over the kids head. My loud response was, “I thought your first class was over in the other direction, not over there.” I pointed the same way he did (in the direction of the bully). And while he confusedly answered, “Oh, no, my class is this direction, but we have to go to this other room first,” I mumbled, “Don’t point. Don’t ever call attention like that.”
I’ve had to share a few things with him. Things not to do in Middle School (or High School) because kids are cruel. They are still figuring out their place in this world and empathy isn’t a high character value on their list in this process. Top of the don’ts? Don’t cry at school.
So did I cover it up well? Probably not. I have a feeling the kid is going to confront him sometime today about it. But I’m hoping, and praying, that maybe my comment will cause enough doubt to make the kid forget it happened at all. If only I were a Jedi…