The Consulting Writer

aka The Frazzled Mom

Bullies Are Here To Stay

I don’t care how many schools “claim” to have anti-bullying agendas and policies. Try all they like, there’s no way to stop it. Bullies always find a way.

Why bring this up? Because my son is a victim of bullying. And I, as a parent, am rendered powerless most school days. Thankfully the bullying is only verbal (though that’s still tough to deal with). If Middle School was a more pleasant experience, I wouldn’t have to escort my son to the school gate. I wouldn’t have to give him a pep talk nearly every day. So forgive my eye roll when schools go on and on about their anti-bullying program.

Today I had to educate my son on something new. Something that I guess I’ve learned from my own experience. Never, ever, point out the bully while he or she is looking. *sigh*  My son did exactly that. First, he was subtle, mumbling a description of the kid. But then he pointed, “There he is. That’s the guy.”

I quickly turned and made out like I was looking over the kids head. My loud response was, “I thought your first class was over in the other direction, not over there.” I pointed the same way he did (in the direction of the bully). And while he confusedly answered, “Oh, no, my class is this direction, but we have to go to this other room first,” I mumbled, “Don’t point. Don’t ever call attention like that.”

I’ve had to share a few things with him. Things not to do in Middle School (or High School) because kids are cruel. They are still figuring out their place in this world and empathy isn’t a high character value on their list in this process. Top of the don’ts? Don’t cry at school.

So did I cover it up well? Probably not. I have a feeling the kid is going to confront him sometime today about it. But I’m hoping, and praying, that maybe my comment will cause enough doubt to make the kid forget it happened at all. If only I were a Jedi…

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3 comments on “Bullies Are Here To Stay

  1. ichabod2014ic
    September 7, 2017

    I think you handled the situation well. I hope things work our for your child.

    I was often bullied in high school. It is not fun.

    However,
    I remember one time, when as the junior high football team, we were first moving up to practice with the high school kids. They took us aside and said that they were not going to continue the tradition of bullying the younger guys. They did not like being bullied and did not want to bully us. Consequently, we did not bully the kids after us. I do not think it lasted very long, but for a few years, there was a little less bullying on that football team.

    Have you considered enrolling your child in a martial art? Folks are often mocked for participating in martial arts. The bully will call you ‘pajama boy’, but sometimes, if the student stays with the martial art for a length of time, the bully will maybe pick up on your improved self control and give a grudging respect. If you go this route, don’t sign up with the first place you visit. Check out as many schools as you can and use your mom wisdom as to what is the best fit and who is the more honest instructor.

    Happy Reading, Writing, and being a Good Mommy!
    Your pal,
    ~Icky. 🙂

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    • Elizabeth Los
      September 11, 2017

      Thanks for the encouragement. A while back he’d done Tae Kwon Do.

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